How Do You Feel? … I Mean, How Do You Really Feel? Acknowledging and Understanding the Way We Think and Feel About Money
I’m so happy we can sit down and continue the conversation around financial empowerment.
Last time, we all sat together and met the elephant in the room (“Dealing With the Elephant in the Room – Talking About Finances”). While it was cute, that elephant made us aware of something incredibly important and powerful. Acknowledging that elephant allowed us to begin bringing our thoughts and feelings around money to the surface.
There are so many things in life we may want change and we may feel that we are so committed to that change and yet we get the same results: no change at all. So, we say things like “tried that and it didn’t work” or “must not be a good idea” or even something like “this is always how it’s going to be for me”. We look to external factors as opposed to looking within ourselves to understand.
Often, it can be because it’s ultimately the hardest thing to do.
In looking within to gain a better understanding of ourselves and our feelings we have to dig deep. We may even need to face some memories that are uncomfortable and potentially painful which is why we chose to shut the door and ignore that those thoughts, feelings and experiences even existed.
At this point, I’d like to remind you of two things with all the care that I have: first, you are not alone and second, you are in control.
The first step in this journey is making the decision to make a change. Then, acknowledging that adorable but ever-present elephant in the room, we move onto understanding thoughts, feelings and experiences around money.
So often we continue with our daily lives and wonder why we see no results after we’ve made a conscious decision to make a change, to take control of something instead of letting it take control of us. Often, it’s because we haven’t done the hardest thing – understanding and acknowledging our paradigm and changing our mindset. Sounds easy right? Believe me, I know it isn’t! And it’s so important that you know it isn’t easy! But it’s also important that you acknowledge all the amazing qualities that make you who you are – your strengths and your gifts!
Now comes the part where I ask something of you.
I’d like to ask you to write down five fabulous qualities about yourself. If you write down more than 5, I would of course be thrilled!
Now, I’d like you to remind yourself that you’re in control and then look within to better understand why you feel the way you do about money. Write down 3-5 descriptive words that best describe your thoughts, feelings and/or emotions around money. If this is an activity that for you would best be done with a friend than go for it! That’s fabulous!
An important part of this journey is acknowledging yourself and your efforts along the way. It’s okay to be proud of yourself. In fact, it’s great! I’m proud of you, and you should be proud of yourself, too! So don’t forget to congratulate yourself for making a conscious decision and starting this process!